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Underbelly: 10 Things - Unity

Wendy Kelly
Wendy Kelly
#113 in a series of wild and precious ways to love your enemy.

  1. TWIL (This Week I Learned)
This week I contemplated unity. How, really, you could say that our one job on this earth is to learn how to play nicely with each other.
How, if you wanted to go to the next level, it’s to co-create beauty out of chaos together.
And how weirdly difficult that seems to be for me.
My week culminated in a walk in the woods with our new dog. As I walked, I finished listening to a 5 part podcast series on the book of Jonah called “When God loves your enemies.”
2. Quote
“We’re telling you this because it turns out that the cure for burnout is not "self-care” It’s all of us caring for each other.“ — Ameilia Nagosky, XOXO Conference Talk, link below
“No one is “complete” without other people—and we mean this literally. To be complete without social connection is to be nourished without food. It doesn’t happen. We get hungry. We get lonely. We must feed ourselves or die. We don’t mean you “need a man” or any kind of romantic partner. We mean you need connection in any or all of its varied forms. And it is also true that the lifelong development of autonomy is as innate to human nature as the drive to connect. We need both connection and autonomy. That’s not a contradiction. Humans are built to oscillate from connection to autonomy and back again.”
― Emily Nagoski, Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle
“The belief that the people around us will reciprocate in proportion to what we give them is called "trust.”
― Emily Nagoski, Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle
"Here we go. It’s our final week in the Book of Jonah. Let’s rock and roll. … We’ve been heading it, what I call, The Veggie Tales Factor. This mediation of the Bible stories to us through children’s media that tends to kind of make them all bland, and about being a nice person or something like that. … This is not a children’s story by any means. … The themes of the story are so profound, you very much have to be an adult to get them dealing with themes about religious hypocrisy, and exposing spiritual apathy, and the devastating effects it has on us and other people, and about the ways that God can use pain and suffering in our lives as a severe mercy to wake us up. So these are themes that are meant for adults. … And that’s because this story, as all of the scriptures, it’s aimed at revealing God’s character to His people, that’s the purpose of the scripture, not to entertain kids, but to reveal who God is, His character, and his purposes, to know what He’s up to in the world.” — Dr. Tim Mackie, The Amazing Jonah P5 When God Loves Your Enemy Exploring My Strange Bible
“So it’s a difficult book to read. And because it’s a difficult book to read, I think most of us get into this mode of like reading the Bible, and not getting it, not getting it, ooohh that’s a cool sentence. I like that one. I’m going to make cross-stitch out of it, put it on my wall or something, you know. And then move, okay, don’t get it, don’t get it, okay, that’s a cool bumper sticker, or something.” Dr. Tim Mackie, The Amazing Jonah P3 A Severe Mercy Exploring My Strange Bible
3. Prompt
It’s called confirmation bias.
Especially when our lives are exceptionally difficult, I think, we reach for something, anything, to feel better.
Why would we not?
I think there’s a tension in life as we mature where, yes, absolutely, by this time we should have nailed how to look after ourselves. We should know that a little ice cream, a long walk, a cold plunge, a drink with friends always makes us smile. And so we should do those things on the regular.
And also — when life is hard, we might need to look inward and straighten something out that’s a bit crooked or look outward and extend a hand to our neighbour, for whom things are potentially equally hard or worse.
This week, if you are in the autonomy camp (see Emily Nagosky’s quote above) I want to ask you to move toward the connection camp. If you desperately need quiet time for yourself, I want to ask you to do that.
First: Where are you? Avoiding self care or steeped in “self care”?
Perhaps notice that it’s balance that you need.
4. Quest
Once you have made sure that you are well taken care of, ask yourself who you know who really needs a flower, a cookie, a hand hold this week?
5. Level-UP / Go Deeper
I’m convinced that our one job here on earth is to co-create beauty out of chaos.
6. Video
Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski: The cure for burnout (hint: it isn't self-care) | TED
Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski: The cure for burnout (hint: it isn't self-care) | TED
7. Video
Emily & Amelia Nagoski, Burnout - XOXO Festival (2019)
Emily & Amelia Nagoski, Burnout - XOXO Festival (2019)
8. Poem — This book was recommended during the podcast — the part Tim Mackie read aloud was gorgeous and intense. I highly recommend finding it.
You! Jonah! by Thomas John Carlisle
9. Hero
Tim Mackie - Church, Wikipedia & BibleProject - Biography
10. Connect — Underbelly project consists of a series of Wild + Precious offerings including blog posts, a podcast, courses and this newsletter.
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