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Underbelly: 10 Things - Making Peace

Wendy Kelly
Wendy Kelly
#130 in a series of wild and precious ways to act courageously.

This week I contemplated what it looks like to make peace and how often what that looks like is unpleasant, disobedient, and undramatic.
Doing the next right thing often looks like the opposite of what is expected from us —
Five of us (one of us had a previous engagement) rather spontaneously drove an hour to see a very, very small production of A Midsummer Night’s Dream solely because one of us wanted to. My role was to allow this to unfold without dictating what a successful evening might look like :) Always still a challenge but always still worthwhile.
The evening was absurd and lovely and undramatic and beautiful.
Two of us plus one cat caught a mouse in our dining room. As we worked together, taking our lead a bit from our apparently pacifist cat (she’s an odd one) the two of us quickly decided to catch the little guy in a clear yogurt container with some cheese in it. We let it go in the compost and felt, I think, like we had done the right thing.
“Those who have a ‘why’ to live, can bear with almost any ‘how’.”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning
“Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality. No one can become fully aware of the very essence of another human being unless he loves him. By his love he is enabled to see the essential traits and features in the beloved person; and even more, he sees that which is potential in him, which is not yet actualized but yet ought to be actualized. Furthermore, by his love, the loving person enables the beloved person to actualize these potentialities. By making him aware of what he can be and of what he should become, he makes these potentialities come true.”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning
“Tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow,
Creeps in this petty pace from day to day,
To the last syllable of recorded time;
And all our yesterdays have lighted fools
The way to dusty death. Out, out, brief candle!
Life’s but a walking shadow, a poor player,
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage,
And then is heard no more. It is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
Signifying nothing.” — Shakespeare, MacBeth
3. Prompt
That MacBeth quote is often what life can feel like at times — my belief is that when we define what is good in our own terms and allow the end to justify the means, we do end up like MacBeth at the end of the play.
And also, doing the next right thing, making peace — it’s not always obvious what that looks like from moment to moment. It often looks opposite, honestly.
What does your core “Why” look like? How do you decide the next right thing to do? How do you make peace?
4. Quest
Look for ways to allow your why to help dictate your how this week — I am mangling Frankl :)
When you find yourself in a situation where you could take a few different actions, try to consciously choose the one that best aligns with your core “Why”. Not perhaps the most expedient, or the easiest, or the most “normal”
Choose weird, or off the beaten path, or a little difficult but worthwhile…
5. Level up
Really, what is your core “Why?” Refine. Discuss. Refine some more.
6. Podcast
What We Gain From Pain | Hidden Brain
7. Video
Viktor Frankl: Our need for Meaning and Purpose
Viktor Frankl: Our need for Meaning and Purpose
8. Poem
The Lonely Sleep Through Winter by Kemi Alabi - Poems |
9. Hero
Viktor Frankl - Wikipedia
10. Connect
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