Last week I optimistically contemplated the personal responsibility we have to teach other people (and ourselves!) who we are.
That’s great, but did lead me to begin to question the hidden-ness of both who we actually are and how to actually teach this :)
Personally, I had a week of abject failure in this subject.
I came across a simple exercise that helped me (after I made my way past some pretty snarky emotions, honestly)
During the day, as you bump up against stuff that gives rise to strong emotion, ask:
How do these feelings make sense in my current context?‘
What am I feeling certain of right now?
Is that definitely so?
What might I be missing?
Can I expand my awareness in this moment and notice something unexpected?
Find yourself ruminating? Chewing over a (particularly unhelpful) thought that keeps you smack dab in the middle of the tension, making it impossible to move past to an actually helpful solution?
What thoughts and feelings are arising for me right now?
How can I be curious about these experiences?
What else is present that I might be missing?
Can I expand my awareness and notice something new?
Can I cultivate compassion toward myself for responding in a natural, human way?
Can I bring awareness to my context (the pandemic, work stress, injustice, sadness, and grief
) to deepen my compassion and flexibility?